Dear Young Black Professional,
So you’re at a transitional period in your life and you feel alone. You realize that you have devoted so much time and energy to other people but now you need them. Now you need someone to pour into you, just like you have poured into them. And they are gone, nowhere to be found. And you cannot help but to continuously say, “But I was there for you”.
In other words, “Honestly, YOU OWE ME!”
You’re overwhelmed and overworked. You’re balancing a new job, maybe a new city, adulthood, and so much more. You’re just trying to stay afloat but you feel like you are drowning. And you cannot help but think of all the times one of your friends, coworkers, family members, or even a stranger came to you needing you to be their lifeguard; and you were there.
But what happens when the lifeguard needs saving?
The reality is, just because you were there for someone, does not mean that they will be there for you. And that is just something that you will have to accept or not accept. Either way it goes, you have to protect your energy.
Protecting your energy in this day and age means putting yourself first. And as hard as it may be, you should never feel guilty for choosing you. Never feel guilty for being who you need. Self care does not mean you are selfish and do not allow anyone to tell you otherwise. Self care is deliberately taking care of the self; mentally, emotionally, and physically. It is doing what is pleasing to you, for you.
So do yourself a favor, CHOOSE YOU.
Do things that make you happy. Spend time with yourself. Explore yourself. Put your phone on do not disturb and go get your nails done. Take yourself out to eat. Grab a glass of wine and binge watch all the shows on Netflix. Buy yourself that item that you’ve been wanting. Take a trip somewhere. Ignore phone calls. Do what you please but do it with noone else in mind but yourself.
Take care….of you first.